To fill in a few blanks Chris and I "Courted, went out with, whatever!" from 1999 we lived at his flat in canterbury for a few months but I was away with work all week. He was desperate to find a job back up north. He went for a job near Stockton on Tees and got the job, I gave notice to the tenant i had living in my first house i bought but never lived in as my job moved me away. So i went to Melton Mowbray and Chris went home to his Mam in Durham we met up at weekends at Melton- we did that for nearly 2 years and it nearly killed us- long distance relationships for two people who have been seriously hurt emotionally previuosly are really hard work. However we managed it. we decided to sell my house and rent together near Chris's job, but after i found loads of rental details he just said "Why don't we just buy a house i am sure we will get on, if not we can just sell it"
So we bought a house in 2000. In 2003 I started my own business after much pressure from people who i had made and designed projects for in my spare time. It was quite scary to give up prospects of a pension and paid holidays etc. What if i was not busy etc etc. I need not have worried as i have been working solidly for the last 7 and a half years with two short breaks to have the kiddi bops!
There is another story Chris was pretty anti kids he is younger by me by 3 years and his parents split when he was a teenager and it affected him deeply. He also swore he would never marry ( or have a joint bank account!!)
I had an issue with my coil ( iud) and had to have some tests and was told by Gp it was unlikely i could conceive and if i wanted children i had better do it now or never!!
Flippin heck that was a stressfull time vest not dwelt apon! To cut a long story short Chris decided he would rather be with me with or without kids rather than not be with me. We tried for a baby and defied the gp and had our daughter Rhianna in 2004 We gave her Fleur as a middle name in memory of my dear sister. We loved her so much ( the hellish pregnancy is another story!!) that we decided we would have another- it took a while but in 2007 along came her brother Rowan.
In 2004 my Mother in law remarried after being a single Mum for over 10 years. I offered to make her wedding dress. I had sort of made my first wedding dress in that I dismantled a silk dress- re- assembled it and added lots of stuff including fimo roses made into beads. I did "O" level needlework and was a qualified curtain maker and had made several items of clothing for friends and myself including a fully corseted elizabethan dress for my 30th ( that took 77 hours and was a labour of love)
So when Chris and i decided to marry I knew i would make all the outfits myself.
I knew I wanted A magical Medieval princess dress myself- think Lord of The Rings- meets Narnia meets Flower fairy!!
One of my overriding memeories of Chris as a child is him permenantly having his nose in a Doctor Who novel- so it was no suprise that he chose a replica Doctor who outfit.
I must point out that he was completely anti suit, tails top hat anything weddingy etc So planned to marry me in his jeans and Darlek T shirt!! After 10 years of waiting to get him down the aisle so to speak I was past caring lol!! He could have turned up in a bin bag and I would not have minded!
One day he said "What are you and Rosie wearing?"- ( his sister and our witness) I said "Medieval dresses and velvet full length hooded cloaks" He looked thoughtful and said " I am going to look a right knob in my jeans then!!" I said well you can wear what you like I am not going to make you wear a suit. He said "have you seen what paul Mcgann wore in the Tv movie for the 8th Doctor Who?" I said i had not but I googled it and said "Sure I can make that!"
Several weeks later with a 37 piece pattern in my hands with 35 pages of instructions on how to construct my Victorian velvet frock coat I was to look back and wonder on the wisdom of that statement!!
However It turned out fanatstically. The full story of researching the exact fabric. colours etc for the coat and waistcoat and which button hole the watch chain was worn in etc is a whole other story!! Suffice to say thise of you who have not come accross the obssesive loons that inhabit the world of Cosplay!! ( Costume play- mostly sci fio and comics!) and yes they do have conferences and seminars and yes I thought I was weird and slightly obsessive before i discovered them - now i feel normal lol!!
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